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Hammock video: I was going to strip the audio to make this nice and idyllic and peaceful and strip out my gross cough, but then miss Farmbaby who was snuggling with me chose that moment to repeat the joke her father had made when I’d spilled my glass of water the previous week, and this is unintentionally the funniest video I’ve ever recorded. So enjoy the background lawnmower and highway noises.
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“Many bisexual respondents described bisexuality as a potential or as an essential quality that many people possess, but that only some people express through actual feelings of attraction or sexual behavior.

“According to this definition, people can be – and are – bisexual without ever experiencing an attraction to one sex or the other and without ever having sexual relations with one sex or the other.

“In contrast to lesbian respondents, most of whom define a bisexual as a person who feels attracted to or has sexual relations with both sexes, very few bisexual women define bisexuals as people who necessarily have these actual emotional and physical experiences.”
– Bisexuality and the Challenge to Lesbian Politics, by Paula Rust, in 1995

[Note that yes, she and her respondents are using cissexist mid-90s wording that isn’t inclusive of nonbinary/genderqueer people. We spent much less time educating cis people about gender-inclusive language in the mid-90s. In modern terms, they are saying “to any gender” and “with any gender”.]

“[A]s a bi trans woman who was there and actually saw aroaces being part of the bi community and putting in the work and dealing with the oppression…  The bi community was actively rejecting definitions beyond ‘not gay, not straight’ into the mid-90s, because every definition offered excluded some of its members.”
- @wetwareproblem, from this post
“"[In a 1992 issue of The Advocate], Nona Hendryx’s interviewer used the word ‘bisexual,’ and Hendryx did not reject the word but said, ‘I try to think of myself as asexual.’“
– Bisexuality and the Challenge to Lesbian Politics, by Paula Rust, again

“When I grew up, heterosexual/homosexual/bisexual were explicitly not specifically sexual. “It’s not about sex!” was a battlecry. This was emphasized frequently as people would sit there trying to come up with some gotcha that meant that you couldn’t be gay and a virgin at the same time. Or — and this is important: that you couldn’t be queer if you weren’t interested in sex. While it’s not necessarily the same as explicitly affirming asexuality, this was a way in which the asexual experience was made intelligible under the mainstream organization of sexuality.
“There was a lot of rhetoric that emphasized this point. In particular, that the fixation on the sexual part of homo/bi-sexuality was actually a form of heterocentrism in which hets would try to strip queers of the capability for romantic attraction.
“Yes, there are problems there. Yes, there’s the privileging of romantic attraction as better and more pure than sexual. And it’s worth talking about.

“But that’s not what I’m getting at right now.What I am getting at, is that in the models I grew up with, among the queers I grew up around, both aro and ace people could qualify as not just bi, but bisexual….
“During a time in which being aro or ace (or aroace) was even less intelligible to the mainstream — or even the mainstream queer community — than it is now, where were the ace and aro bi people? Where did they organize under when trying to deal with monosexism? Where did they vent their frustrations over LG exclusion? Where did they openly talk about their attractions? Who were they fighting alongside?
“They were with the bisexuals.
“They were bisexuals.”
– @atomicbubblegum, from this post

“Lord amighty. Some of us did just live through this. Not every Tumblr person is a teenager. Some of us were there.


One of the oldest queer people I personally know is ace, and hung out in the ‘not gay or straight’ section for ages, but she’s been with us forever….

“I’m pretty much done with sga people who are too young to have been there talking over bi people who were there.

“Aces were bi only 20 years ago. ’Bi’ was the umbrella diagnosis if you weren’t a gold star gay.

“You kids get off my lawn.“
– @vaspider, both here and right over here

“Was there; can confirm.”– @persephonesidekick​ here

bonus links:in which a 1917 essayist explains how aces and other non-heteronormative women are going to destroy feminism, and ultimately, all of human society

in which people have been targeted as queer for asexual behavior for like 150 years 

if you like all this, you might like the asexual history interest group
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So this week's AV Club Q&A is favorite one hit wonders (though certainly the definition of "one hit" is...elastic, and dependent in many cases on where you live), and more than a couple of songs I love got mentioned and then I ended up departing from that original premise and going on a youtube spiral of music from my teenage years, a lot of which I hadn't heard in decades probably (and some of which is still in regular rotation on my iPod, though I left out most of the usual suspects), but here are some gems:

- Let Me Go - Heaven 17
- Hit That Perfect Beat - Bronski Beat
- Don't Go - Yaz
- Love to Hate You - Erasure
- Obsession - Animotion
- West End Girls - Pet Shop Boys
- Tenderness - General Public
- I Melt With You - Modern English
- Whisper to a Scream - Icicle Works
- Cruel Summer - Bananarama
- Voices Carry - 'Til Tuesday
- Forever Young - Alphaville
- What Do All the People Know? - the Monroes
- Heart and Soul - T'Pau
- If You Leave - OMD
- Question of Lust - Depeche Mode
- The Promise - When In Rome
- True - Spandau Ballet
- Hold Me Now - Thompson Twins
- No One Is to Blame - Howard Jones
- Don't Dream It's Over - Crowded House

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Welcome to new jersey, says the gps. Simultaneously the NWS buzzes me about a tornado warning. Smooth sailing? Glad my sister volunteered for the first driving shift.

Jane the Virgin... and Friends

NSFW Jun. 23rd, 2017 01:18 pm
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it's braver sometimes just to run

Jun. 23rd, 2017 10:55 am
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Last night, we had dinner at Joanne's, the Lady Gaga family restaurant. The food was fine, but for the prices they charge, I expected at least two meatballs with my spaghetti and meatball dinner. To be fair, the one meatball was of decent size, but still, it's listed as spaghetti and meatballs on the menu so it's not ridiculous to expect there to be more than one meatball on the plate. I am just saying.

It's warm and clammy today, which is my second least favorite combination (cold and clammy is worse), but I'm looking forward to the weekend, as this week has seemed endless. It was so hard to get out bed. Sigh.

I did just get off the phone with 1. the realtor and then 2. the lawyer, so things are progressing there re: the negotiation of a slightly lower price due to the low appraisal (all thanks, apparently, to the fact that while the seller lists the apartment in Forest Hills, it actually exists in Rego Park which is one - slightly less expensive - neighborhood over. And if you are from Queens, you know what I mean). The question is whether this affects the lender in any way, but since the loan amount is the loan amount regardless, I'm not sure why it would? but what do I know? As per my lawyer's instructions, I am playing dumb (I mean, on this topic, despite all the info from Uncle Google, I actually am kind of dumb? so it's not hard! *hands*) The lawyer and mortgage broker are on top of that.

When I spoke to the realtor this morning, I was like, it's been a week since they received my application but I shouldn't expect to hear from them before the Fourth of July weekend? and he was like, "they don't like to disclose their schedule but I'll ask for an update," and then he just texted me to say that the board has received and is reviewing my application so EEP! That, more than the bank or the seller or the more normal processes of home-buying is what is freaking me out. I have more to say about this but probably not until it's all over, and even then, probably only in a locked post. Mostly what I want to say is EEP! At least I found my black dress (and my mom's pearls *snerk*) so I'm prepared!

I feel like I should have something fannish to say, and I'm sure I did before these phone calls all started happening, but I guess for right now, this househunting business is my main fandom. Sigh.


Bingo card for me

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I don’t have a picture, but I’m staying at my sister’s house, the one with all the kids who just moved up from Georgia, and using the same shower as the kids, and even though I brought my own shampoo etc. with me, I had to use theirs because they had Galactic Fresh BB-8 3-in-1 Shampoo, Conditioner, and Body Wash, and that was just hilarious.

There’s so much Star Wars merch in this house y’all.


Jun. 23rd, 2017 01:10 pm
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Confessions of a Trekker: I really don't like ST VI - The Undiscovered Country. Which is, I've discovered, something of a minority opinion, for at least the vocal part of fandom holds this last cinematic outing of the TOS crew in a fond light. However, now and then the dissent becomes vocal, too, as in this rewatch post about the movie in question .

In more fun Trek news, check out this vid about everyone's favourite Cardassian tailor-plus-spy:

Dedicated Follower of Fashion

(Every now and then I wish the movies instead of going for the nth version of Wrath of Khan (with or without a villain called Khan) would tackle the Cardassians instead. And then I conclude the movies would probably mishandle the Cardassians as badly as they did the Romulans, and am glad the Cardassians so far have been reserved for tv.)

And lastly, a BSG fanfic rec:

Rippling Light: tender and heartbreaking take on the friendship of Felix Gaeta and Anastasia Dualla, two characters for whom the phrase "they deserved better" might have been invented.


Jun. 22nd, 2017 01:52 pm
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American Gods 1.08

Jun. 22nd, 2017 01:42 pm
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Getting this done before the Munich Film Festival starts tomorrow (guests of honor: Bryan Cranston and Sofia Coppola, who brings her parents along!).

Now that the season is over, I'm still not sure whether Fuller's decision to stretch the main plot out and pace it the way he does is justified. I mean, we STILL haven't reached the House on the Rock yet, and I assumed that would happen in the third episode, as it's this story's Council of Elrond scene, so to speak. Just think of a LotR tv adaption where they've barely made out of the Shire by the time the season finishes. Otoh, all that Fuller & Co. have added does enrich the story and I wouldn't have wanted to miss it, so.

And the moral of the story is... )
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Set of photos from my sister’s new house (the one that moved from Georgia): view of the main house from the “shop” outbuilding where the guest room is, taken just now, then pictures of the various animals (KITTEN), and a view of the shop from the house taken last night. My car is in the same place in both pictures.
There were two dogs who made the move, but one stopped eating, and they thought it was stress but it turned out to be inoperable cancer. Much sadness, and the yard now has a memorial in it. :(
Then the orange cat in the photo with my sister disappeared for three days, and they feared the worst, but yesterday he reappeared, hungry and grimy, clearly having been trapped somewhere. He’s being coddled and fed kitten food, and is delighted to be back.
So– it’s never boring. Me and middle-little sister are here to help move furniture. :) (at Baltimore County, Maryland)
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It worked! Holy hell! And I realized while making it that simply changing the colors would make it possible to create pretty much all of Black Squadron. Swipe the beard pattern from Obi-Wan, make the helmet white and blue, and poof, you have Snap. Swipe the hair from the Rey pattern and you have Jess. I may be making Star Wars amigurumi forever at this rate.

P.S. @bomberqueen17, he has a chest box and that of course made me think of respirator clips and fucked-up X-wing vent systems and such. So now I’m wondering if the pattern for the Cantina Band dudes could be morphed into Goss Toowers.

This is brilliant! One of my many sisters does amigurumi crochet and I have no idea how it works, but am consistently amazed by it.

That is AMAZING.

You realize I have no idea what the chest boxes are supposed to really be for, mind. I researched, and realized nobody else really knew either, so I just sort of… improvised. They’re inconsistent about making the pilots use air masks anyway… 

New h/c bingo card!

Jun. 22nd, 2017 12:44 am
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I'm almost certainly going to sign up for [community profile] rarepairfest, once I finish getting my signup written. Probably with Agent Carter, Guardians of the Galaxy, and ... I'm still figuring out a third one that sounds fun. Supergirl? White Collar?

I have also acquired an h/c bingo card! This is round 8, which means it's been going on for 8 years (omfg!). And I've been doing it almost every year. I think there was a year in there I didn't do it, and there have definitely been years I haven't completed a bingo (and one year I blacked out my card - though admittedly it took me 'til the amnesty period to do it), but in general, I really look forward to getting each year's card. So here is this year's.

2017 h/c bingo card )
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Oh my god.

From Vogue (July 2017)
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Guys, I received my first flame on AO3!!

Posted )

Wednesday reading

Jun. 21st, 2017 05:42 pm
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Finished since the last reading post
Captain's Surrender, which I enjoyed all the way through; By Honor Betrayed by the same author, mostly as bedtime reading, which fell quite flat for me by lacking a sense of place and time and feeling too much like conventional romance novel; A Life in Secrets: Vera Atkins and the Lost Agents of SOE by Sarah Helm, which I found fascinating without knowing anything about her or SOE before, and struggled to put down.

Currently reading
The Virgin in the Garden by AS Byatt; Breaking the Rules by Meredith Taylor as bedtime reading—it's pretty terrible in terms of originality or interesting characters, but as it was a free Kindle novella, it's OK.

Reading next
Not sure
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Fucking thank you goddamn Pennsylvania never fucking ends (at Maryland Line, Maryland)


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